Written By: Shoshana Katz
Hi guys! Some of my riders have known me for years, and some of you just met me last week! A little bit about me and my life: I am getting married on October 15th (that’s right, this Saturday)! My fiancé, Adam, and I have been together for 9½ years and are finally tying the knot. We are PUMPED!
Getting proposed to is really freaking cool. Someone just asked you to spend the rest of your life with them. It is simply a beautiful thing. Adam’s proposal was so thought out and well done, that I couldn’t believe he actually planned it (I’d like to give a shout out to our best friends who helped him pull the entire thing off!). It is a time in life that you want to make slow down, last just a little bit longer, and savor. Once you set your date, you blink and it is here.
Adam and I met working in the event industry, so when it came to planning our own wedding, we knew exactly who we wanted to use and how we wanted this party to go down. While this may have been an easy task for us, finding your vendors and wedding day professionals can be an incredibly difficult task to accomplish. Do your research, interview the people yourselves, check out their work, and limit your list. All of this research and idea exploring, planning and organizing is a ton of fun, but it can also be incredibly stressful.
Speaking of stressful: you have to make sure you continue to take care of yourself, and that is really what this blog is all about. Working in the fitness industry places its own unique pressures on me to keep fit, stay in shape, and remain healthy. I am automatically put under a microscope simply because of the profession I chose. Add getting engaged to that mix, and suddenly people start paying even MORE attention to everything I’m doing in terms of health and fitness.
There is this insane expectation and pressure on brides, both fitness and non-fitness professionals, to lose weight for their wedding day. I get it, we all want to look and feel our best for the biggest day of our lives. Over the several years I have been training, I have worked with a ton of brides. They are so excited, dedicated, and determined to work hard and I absolutely love that. While their energy is infectious, it is important for me to bring them back down to earth and have a serious conversation with them about their goals and the pressures they are experiencing about their big day. Some days it can be really difficult, and as both a bride and a fitness professional, I am completely empathetic to these feelings.
Learning to push past these pressures can be incredibly challenging. For me, I have struggled day in and day out with answering the questions of, “How are you feeling? Have you lost weight? Are you nervous?” When people ask us these questions, they don’t mean to make us feel uncomfortable. These questions all come from a place of excitement and general curiosity, but they also make it sort of impossible to not doubt ourselves. I feel great, but should I not? I haven’t really been trying to lose weight, but do I look ill or should I try to drop a few pounds? I am not the slightest bit nervous, but should I be?
All of these thoughts start running through your head, and it is enough to make anyone go a little crazy. I have found that the best way to deal with all of it, is to continue with my daily routine. I am, by profession and nature, a healthy and active person. I eat well, genuinely LOVE to exercise, and am a creature of habit. I also surround myself with wonderful and supportive people who are amazing listeners and have been there for me when I need to vent about anything wedding related.
It is also really important to keep things in perspective; guys… it’s a wedding. You are not curing cancer, performing brain surgery, or attempting a dangerous feat. You are marrying your best friend and planning a bomb ass party. Period. Everything else is secondary and frankly, unnecessary. What truly is most important, is loving yourself and the skin you are in and looking down that aisle and seeing a person who loves you no matter what. Nervous, excited, a few pounds less, a few pounds more, or feeling absolutely terrified, that person does not care. They are with you through it all, one hundred percent of the way.
So go out there and have fun! Go get yourself married, because well shit… I’m about to!